It's supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year, but is it?
I share 4 steps to self care and self love at this busy period:
This season, make it not just about others but about you. Don't go about making everybody's wish list but putting your needs on the back burner.
Watch the video and let me know your self care routine this season. Leave your comments and questions in the comment section below.
For every woman who is likely to put everybody else's need above hers, please share this video with her.
To a happy holiday
Today’s post was inspired by my client.
As you know I support women to find their voice, achieve their biggest dreams and thrive.
What I saw in my client is what I hear from so many women – finding themselves again after divorce is one of the hardest experiences of their lives. Divorce can be challenging emotionally, financially and otherwise.
So how do you begin to put yourself back on track so that you not only survive but thrive.
I share 4 helpful tips in this video.
Please share this with any woman who needs to know she’ll not only be Ok but she’ll thrive.
I want to hear from you. Have you been through a difficult experience yourself? If you’ve been in this situation, how did you cope?
Please share your words of wisdom for other women in the comments section below.
I'm positive these tips will help you bounce back from whatever challenge you're facing.
Very often we find ourselves living lives we’ve not designed. We get caught in the hustle of living and somehow in that process we neglect and in some cases give up on our dreams entirely.
With this quick reminder video, I challenge you to begin to explore your dreams further. To begin to live intentionally and on purpose. I want to hear from you in the comments. What are your challenges. What help do you need to begin to live intentionally and create a fulfilling life. And yes!! Your dreams are possible.
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The desire to people please often comes from a number of places.
And I could go on.
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I'm not talking about pleasing from a perspective of genuinely wanting to make some else happy. I'm talking about pleasing form the perspective of agreeing to do or be part of something when if all is stripped bare you'd rather decline. That's people pleasing. What we don't actively consider is that in saying yes to others against our better judgement we're doing a disservice to ourselves. When we chose to please others against our preference we unconsciously send a message to ourselves that we don't value or choices, that our thoughts and opinions are not that important.
When we say yes when we really want to say no , we place those people and things on a higher priority than our goals. We in effect say, you are more important than anything else I want for my life right now. You didn't see that coming, did you? In simply saying yes to someone or something, you didn't consider that you were trading off in that moment your own hopes, dreams , resource and plans for your day , life etc
Whenever you're people pleasing, you shut the door to something potentially beautiful or fulfilling for yourself. And if you people please long enough, you will significantly limit your full potential and opportunities because you'll be living for others and not yourself. You'll be helping make other people's goals and plans a reality and significantly failing on yours. Worst of all, when you consider that part of the reason you people please in the first place is to discharge the discomfort of disappointing others, by people pleasing you amplify feelings of animosity towards others and yourself so truly, it's a losing game either way.
People pleasing on a grander scale is the silencing of your voice. It steals your ability to choose what you desire for yourself. People pleasing keeps you quiet from fully expressing what you want and who you are.opk
So what should you do instead?
I thought you'd never ask?
Pretty much all humans are plagued with the dilemma of people pleasing, but by bringing awareness, you significantly minimize your chances of doing that. So if you're prone to people pleasing here are 3 practical steps that can begin to shift that pattern so that you can claim your life back.
I hope you'll go out there and start "being strange" by breaking the pattern, honouring your thoughts, values and opinions and by being intentional. I'm routing for you!
To your new strange self :-)
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