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Have you ever thought about what you could do if you were unstoppable. How much you could really accomplish. How much happier you could be. How much more success you could actually enjoy. And why not? Most times, our ability to experience more success, happiness, wealth and love is not because it's not possible or because we don't have what it takes. Most times it's because we let negative emotions stop us form taking the crucial steps that are necessary. Deal with those emotions and you'll find you can achieve even the hardest task. In this post, I'll show you how to overcome those negative emotions by leaning into your vulnerabilities and achieving the success you deserve.
Our society has taught us both subtly and overtly to hide feelings of fear, uncertainty or insecurities. Instead of talking about how we truly feel, we bottle it all up and put on a look like everything is ok. The sad part is this - not only are we looking on the outside like everything is ok and that we've got it all in control, we continue bottling up even when we are alone with ourselves. We're not honest with ourselves about how we really feel; as a result we are not able to identify and overcome the emotions that stop us from achieving what we truly want and deserve.
By leaning into the vulnerability, I'll show you how to open up to yourself about how you really feel about your circumstance, how to deal effectively with any negative emotion and start the journey towards success. And I assure you, it's ok. It's ok to admit to yourself that you're anxious about taking up a new role, changing careers, opening up your heart to love again, becoming a parent, starting out a new business and whatever circumstance you find yourself.
Steps to Lean Into The Vulnerability
1. Name It:
Identify what the feeling is. Are you scared, anxious, overwhelmed, angry, uncertain, afraid? Put a finger to the feeling you are experiencing an identify it. When you're ill and go to see a doctor, the first step to getting you better is for the doctor to diagnose your aliment. If he can't diagnose what the problem is, his prescriptions may be an exercise in futility because he doesn't know what's wrong. In the same vein, if you cannot clearly identify that feeling, you will be unable to move past it to success. So get in tune with your emotions, be honest with yourself - remember it's just you - ask yourself how you are really feeling about that situation and name the emotion(s).
You cannot heal what you won't acknowledge. Acknowledge the emotion(s) you're feeling. This is not the step to be strong. In this step, I want you to make it ok. Now you've named the emotion you're feeling, I want you to know it's ok to feel this way. Whatever the emotion is; you're entitled to your feelings. It may not be the kind of emotion you would like to feel or be proud if, but it's ok. These feelings are part of what makes us human, your ability to experience these feelings, show you are still in touch with that thinking, feeling part of you. Your inability to experience any of these feelings, may signal the beginning of an unhealthy psychological state. So all I want you to do in this step is just acknowledge that you're afraid, angry, sad, anxious; whatever the feeling is and it's ok. There's nothing wrong with you, you've not let yourself down and there's nothing to be embarrassed about. You're human to feel this way and it's fine.
3. Let it out
Now you've named the emotion and you've acknowledged the feeling, the next step towards victory, is to let it out. Find a healthy outlet for it. A healthy outlet could be talking to a trusted source, speaking in a conducive environment to the people involved, finally giving yourself permission to cry about it, seeking professional help or simply finding other ways that resonate with you to let it out like, yoga, getting involved in art projects, music etc. The crucial step here is to let it out. You won't be able to move to the next step of success with pent up feelings.
Now that you've taken the first 3 steps, your final step is to take the next most important step towards success. That could be saying yes to a relationship you've held back on because you were afraid, it could be enrolling for that professional qualification, getting your company registered, whatever the fundamental step to getting you started on success is, that's what I want you to do in this step. Get the ball rolling towards a future that is happier, more exciting, more successful than what you presently live.
You deserve a great life. Don't let your fears and vulnerabilities stop you.
To your greatness
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