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Don't we all do it? I mean seriously!! Remember when you went into your neighbour's house and sudden your beautiful "I absolutely love my house" becomes "gosh this house is not all that"! Since when might I ask? Well since you visited your neighbour's house.
Ok, here's the gist,
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every time you compare yourself to others you shift from a mindset of enough and abundance to one of scarcity and inadequacy. Comparison instantly diminishes whatever you have and suddenly makes it not enough. But it goes deeper. When you compare yourself to others you bring that feeling of scarcity and inadequacy into other areas of your life.
Every time you compare yourself, you programme your brain to see scarcity and lack, do this enough times and your brain would have been properly trained to see scarcity and inadequacy in other aspects of your life. And honey! Didi I tell you it goes deeper? It sure does.
See scarcity and inadequacy are two angry sisters who carry with them negativity wherever they go. So what you thought was a casual display of comparison, with regular practice could lead to stay put feelings that you're not enough. Your beautiful body, home, children, husband and job soon disappear and in its place you'll begin to feel like there's something missing. Your life that was once upbeat and hopeful could soon begin to look bleak and unexciting.
So how do you stop comparing yourself?
We don't all have the perfect lives and truth be told there may be aspects of your life that truly need changing. Beauty, if that's you, then go for it. Here's what I want you to genuinely do. Instead of comparing yourself, I want you to work on being a better you, to aim high and to play big. To look at people who are doing better than you and applaud them, learn from them, support them and let them inspire you. To look at your circumstances and be thankful for where you are even if you think you've not come far, because beautiful someone else somewhere would gladly swap places with you. And if you think; well, Christiana, I really don't have much for someone to aspire to my circumstances. I beg to differ - you have life. You're breathing, you're walking, you can give your children a hug, a bath. You may not have scaled your business as you wished but you've started, someone else hasn't. You may not have made director but you're in senior management - someone else somewhere is still praying to make manager.
You get my point.
So how do you stop comparing yourself again? Find contentment in life. Be thankful for the little you have. Keep a positive mindset because like above if you focus on thankfulness instead of comparison, you also programme your mind to see enough and abundance and with practices of thankfulness, gratitude sips into other areas of your life and seemingly little you have is more than enough. This also brings positivity and hopefulness into your life.
To Contentment in life
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