I want to debunk some dangerous myths that women have come to believe about themselves following a divorce.
You’re a failure
There’s a social construct that attaches stigma to divorce. Whereby people feel that if they are unable to hold a marriage together they are a failure. This feeling if unchecked could spill into other areas of your area creating the feeling that because you failed in this area, you’ll fail in other areas of your life.
You’re not a failure because you’ve gone through a divorce. This one thing does not get to define your life. Don’t give it that kind of power. Everyone at some point in life will go through difficult situations. This is simply yours. Whether you are a failure or not is not based on your experiences but what you give power to.
Nobody is going to want you - Maybe your partner made you feel unwanted, maybe he put you down with his actions or went as far as telling you that nobody will want you. That’s a projection he’s putting on you. It’s a lie and it’s not yours to carry.
You may feel broken right now but that has nothing to do with your worth. Beauty, irrespective of what you’ve gone through you’re worthy in every sense of the word and you are worthy of love.
When you’ve healed and are ready to open your heart again, the right person will come your way. You have not lost your worth or beauty because of your experience. A £5 pound note doesn't lose it's value simply because it's rumpled'
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You'll be miserable for the rest of your life
You can find happiness beyond divorce. What is your perspective. Are you looking at life from a glass half full or half empty. Changing your perspective on this phase of your life can either bring you tremendous joy or a profound sense of loss.
Instead of focusing on all you’ve lost or can no longer do no matter how dim your situation is. Turn the lens on how much you can now achieve on your own terms. Do you want to go back and study, relocate or choose a new path. Divorce can give you a blank canvas to create life on new terms
I’m keen to hear your thoughts in the comments. Have you bought into any of these lies?
This can be the lie you were fed by your spouse. This feeling of not being loveable can be reinforced if you experienced situations in the past or were told by action or words from people who you care about that you are not loveable. This myth may also be the story your mind had made up given your experience. As a result, you may now believe that you are unloveable. As with the previous myth, you are worthy, and worthy of love and belonging. Don’t let anyone or your situation label you.
Believing these lies will hold you back from experiencing a fulfilled life.
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