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We recently had a few days of heavy snowing in Kent where I lived. Driving conditions were challenging. I made an assessment of my route and felt I could manage to drive. On onward trip was less than ideal but nothing I couldn’t manage; however, I couldn’t say the same for my return trip.
On my way back, while coming down a hilly road, my car lost control and I skidded down the road. Hard as I tried, my tyres did not grip the road and my brakes became ineffective. And there I was in that moment of fear where nothing I could do or say would stop my car from the quick decent it had started on.
But my worst fear was yet to come. As my car was now heading uncontrolled down the road, ahead of me was a bus stop and people standing. When it had become clear that I was inevitably going to have a crash, I started honking furiously at the people standing by the bus stop motioning crazily with my hands for them to move out of the way.
Like a scene from the Bourne series – just this time it was my worst nightmare - I quickly steered my car away from the bus top and drove into a fence.
I couldn’t believe what had just happened. It felt like a really bad dream. This surely cannot be happening! I felt it was so much a nightmare I needed someone to slap me hard so I could wake from it.
Thankfully no one got hurt. The fence was not too badly dented but my car took a real hit, it was written off.
In the days following my incident, as you can imagine, I was part part trans-like, part awake. The thoughts of what could have happened.
However, I chose to take some positives out of the experience.
I decided going forward that I would enjoy the process of life and take things at a slower pace. All this rushing about – what’s the end. I decided that when the urge kicks in to hurry, grab opportunities, try to meet deadlines etc, I would take it slow and process the moment and be present, instead of breezing through it.
That is not to say there will not be tight deadlines and situations that need urgent attention. There will be, but those are not and should not be how we are wired everyday. Those moments should be left on the occasional hub, not business as usual mode.
I also learnt to give people a break over and again. We all make mistakes. I shouldn’t have driven on that day but somehow I made the decision to beyond my better judgement. People sometimes act in ways we don't expect them to but in those moments instead of judging and blaming, we can show compassion and forgiveness. Even we, don't often live up to our expectations.
What’s frenzied in your life that you can take slowly and enjoy the process.
To enjoying the process of life.
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