The desire to be part of a community is not unique. We all want to be part of something important. Something larger than ourselves. But what is the price we pay if we have to edit some of who we are in order to be accepted?

Today's video is focused on exactly that. The price we pay for editing part of ourselves when trying to fit in.

For the records, trying to fit in is different from belonging. Trying to fit in is becoming someone other than who you truly are in order to be accepted.

Watch the video to understand the dangers of trying to fit in and why you shouldn’t. Find out instead why authenticity is key and the benefits.

I want to hear from you, what 1 challenge do you face in choosing authenticity and standing out?

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​If you’re wondering what in the world, you’re doing in a relationship that doesn’t fulfil you, you’re not alone.

A healthy relationship is not meant to drain you, de-motivate you or make you unhappy.

A healthy relationship doesn’t kill your dreams, silence your voice or make you feel insignificant.

The good news is that you don’t have to settle for a relationship, heck any relationship that doesn’t bring you joy, motivation or growth.

We don’t have forever, so settling for a soul sucking relationship should not be an option.

And I get it, it’s hard to break away from any relationship. It’s hard to make uncomfortable decisions. No joke, if it was easy, you would have done it already. If it was easy, no one would be in a bad relationship.

That’s because breaking up could carry some implications. It may mean you lose other friends who wouldn’t understand why you’re “giving up” on your relationship.

Breaking up may draw attention to you and if there’s anything you don’t want to do is rock the boat.

A client of mine was in a similar situation, she spoke about feeling lonely in her relationship - I share about not settling in this video.

Although she had been in a relationship for some time, her partner didn’t care about her feelings and didn’t acknowledge her.

And even though she was unhappy and unfulfilled, she stayed and didn’t say much because she was “grateful” to have a relationship.

?Nobody should have to settle for an unhealthy relationship. Everyone deserves to be be loved, supported and believed in.

?If that’s not your reality right now and you’re afraid to rock the boat even though you want better, it’s time to look at your deeper truth. Why are you settling?

Your boundaries determine how others will treat you. Whether it's in your relationships or at work. 

Are you wondering if you can be a loving person and set boundaries? What if people you care about are upset by your boundaries, 

Watch today's video to understand why boundaries are important not only for you but for others.

Boundaries are healthy. The more you practice holding them up, the more you honour yourself and others.

To healthy boundaries

Christiana

​​Do you want to get better at setting and upholding your boundaries? Find out how 1:1 coaching can help here.

Sometimes we choose to be brave and step outside our comfort zone, only to be rejected. 

But if you're going to continue to show up courageously in the face of uncertainty or if you choose to pursue goals that make you come alive, learning how to manage rejection so it doesn't stop you is key.

I share how a new mindset is important. The story you tell yourself following a rejection would either keep you from moving forward or propel you.

Watch today's video to see how.

What steps are you taking to show up more bravely? 

I'm rooting for you.

P.S
If you want confidence to be the woman you know you can be, click here to find out how my 1:1 private coaching can help.
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