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So what’s your drug of choice?? Now wait! Just before you think, hold on Christiana, what are you on? I do not use substance. I never have, never will and really if you know me, you’ll know I don’t do stuff like that.
Ok. I hear you. Back to the question: What’s your substance of choice – cocaine, alcohol, workaholism, cannabis, excessive shopping, binge eating, TV binge watching, perfectionism, exercise and the list is endless. We all use.
The question is not whether we use but why we use and how we can get past using because the real gist is, we all use. So how do we interrupt the cycle so we can go from using to wholeness?
So just before you think of grabbing a placard and starting a “friendly protest”, let’s start with some definitions:
What do I mean by using?
My definition of using is when we avoid addressing an issue by using something else to cover up, avoid, cope with or simply deny the existence of the problem. This something else could be good in itself but the process of using this something else as a substitute instead of addressing the real issue turns that process into something negative. And using in this sense is not limited to drugs or alcohol.
Substance users/ abusers usually use for a number of reasons; either to cope, numb, escape or avoid situations and in some cases they use for excitement and adventure. And in every case, substance use is never the real problem, substance use is only a symptom of the existing problem.
Wholeness: I define it as a state of peace, gratitude, fulfilment, happiness. It’s a state of knowing you are enough and are content with who you are and where you are.
So back to the essence of this post. Coping, avoiding, escaping, numbing are all very human and so easy to fall into. As long as you are living and breathing, there will always be difficult conversations that we’d prefer not to have, situations that knock the wind off your sails or issues that seem insurmountable. And in those moments, it would be a whole lot easier to avoid, escape etc. But instead of choosing those options that provide temporary release and longer term harm, chose options that instead address the issues, heal the pain and helps you move on. Ask for help professionally or by speaking to people who care about you. Always get to the root of what the real problem is instead of substituting. If you constantly feel the need to be around people and cannot bear the thought of being on your own. Instead of trying to make more friends, maybe dig deep to explore why? Choosing to address the problem is always the harder option but it is the healthier option and one with lasting benefits.
My heart goes out to you if you are going through an experience where you are tempted to numb, cope etc. I hope you choose a better alternative than the above and I wish you well. If you are going through a tough time, leave me a comment let me know how you’re doing and what healthy option you’re taking.
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